I started this blog when I had a lot more time on my hands and I haven’t been keeping up for a while now. I have loved doing this, but right now I need to focus on getting this house renovated, bathing in the tears of my enemies, kissing pretty girls, and hanging out with my boyfriend. So my queue has run dry and I’m taking a break.
I will keep my ask open, perhaps indefinitely, so feel free to say hi. This blog, and all of you, remain very important to me and I’m very grateful for your friendship over the last three or so years.
Take care, be kind to yourselves, get the fuck outside this weekend. I’ve been ginkitten, and you’ve been great.
My Least Favorite Trope (and this post will include spoilers for The Lego Movie, Guardians of the Galaxy, The Matrix, Western Civilization, and—cod help me—Bulletproof Monk*.) is the thing where there’s an awesome, smart, wonderful, powerful female character who by all rights ought to be the Chosen One and the hero of the movie, who is tasked with taking care of some generally ineffectual male character who is, for reasons of wish fulfillment, actually the person the film focuses on. She mentors him, she teaches him, and she inevitably becomes his girlfriend… and he gets the job she wanted: he gets to be the Chosen One even though she’s obviously far more qualified. And all he has to do to get it and deserve it is Man Up and Take Responsibility.
And that’s it. Every god-damned time. The mere fact of naming the films above and naming the trope gives away the entire plot and character arc of every single movie.
1: You are not lazy, you are ill.
2: You are not selfish for taking care of yourself.
3: You are not arrogant for loving yourself.
4: It’s okay to feel sad, but it’s not okay to let the sadness win.
5: Your worth isn’t defined by if a person does or does not love you.
6: Do not put all of your happiness into one person. Ultimately you have to be your own hero.
7: A healthy person does not wish to be sicker. There is no such thing as “not sick enough”.
8: It’s okay to be alone every once in a while.
9: A bad day doesn’t equal a bad life.
10: Sometimes not giving into your addictions will make you feel worse in that moment than if you had given in, but honestly, the worst days in recovery are better than the best days in relapse.
11: Strategies and techniques are your new best friend.
12: Eating doesn’t mean you’re weak.
13: Not eating doesn’t mean you’re strong.
14: The words ‘f*ck it’ do come in handy once in a while.
15: Your feelings are valid simply because you’re feeling them. You do not need to justify yourself.
16: Never feel guilty for being sad because “someone has it worse than you”.
17: People are not perfect. They will offend you, hurt you and let you down from time to time, but this can be from lack of understanding; it does not mean that they don’t love you.
18: You are not a burden.
19: You have to learn to love yourself before you can fully love someone else.
20: Do not let your illness define or limit you.
21: Don’t be afraid to walk away from toxic relationships/friendships.
22: Do the things you love. Every. Single. Day.
23: It’s okay to be different.
24: Good things can, do, and will happen to you.
25: Recovery is not about being strictly happy, it’s about learning to become whole.
26: You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. So stop analyzing it and wondering about what you could’ve or should’ve done. Learn to let go.
27: Letting go isn’t a one time thing, you need to do it over and over again.
28: The bad things people say about you, actually are reflections of what they think of themselves, not you.
29: Everything seems bad when it’s 3am.
30: You’re not worthless, you’re priceless.
31: One day this pain will all make sense to you. There are things you need to learn.
32: Ultimately it’s only your opinion of yourself that matters. Do what makes YOU happy.
33: U hella rad.
Things I’ve learned in recovery. (via semperlibera